I’m starting to feel a bit put-off by what I refer to as the Anti- anti-aging movement. The Anti- anti-aging movement promotes self-acceptance, which in and of itself is a worthy goal. However, lately some of the encouragement to embrace aging makes me feel as though I can only be an enlightened and mature woman if I embrace the inevitable and natural deterioration of my body, grey hair and weight gain. Well, I reject this notion.
The latest Anti- anti-aging trends endorse wearing your natural and/or grey hair as the epitome of modern, mature beauty. To a certain extent, I agree with this notion. However, I abhor any trend that directly or indirectly knocks women who choose to change or enhance their appearance as they age.
As modern women, I firmly believe that we should embrace and encourage our diversity in appearance, size, thoughts and actions. While I recognize the natural beauty of seasoned women, I will not endorse the Anti- anti-aging lifestyle trends of the moment.
Current Beauty Trends. The Anti- anti-aging movement is a popular and modern beauty trend. In fact, the “all-natural’ movement can be downright empowering for women who choose to exercise the freedom to be unapologetically who they are. To the extent you are comfortable in your skin and natural hair, I say, go for it. Let it shine!
However, if you prefer to change your appearance by supplementing natural products with health and beauty regimens or other safe and effective products that color your hair, exfoliate and nourish your skin, de-bloat your gut, de-puff your eyes, diminish cellulite or smooth wrinkles, I say, go for it, too. Don’t be shamed by naturalists who perceive you as being vain and just not enlightened enough to embrace your belly fat, cellulite, unruly grey hair, under eye bags and crows feet.
You Can be an evolved, mature woman and still prefer the convenience of wearing a weave because you workout everyday and want to protect your natural hair from the demands of daily styling. You may choose to have plastic surgery or use dermatological fillers because you simply prefer to reduce the appearance of wrinkled, crepey or sun-damaged skin. You may choose to continue to color your hair because you do not believe your grey hair complements your skin color.
Why not strive to be Your best?…whatever that means to you. Regardless of the outcome, you can find peace of mind, body and spirit when you know that you’ve given your best.
Aging Acceptance. I reject the notion that some women are in denial about their seasoned age because they choose to continue to enhance their appearance as they see fit. You CAN embrace the aging process including finding new passions and activities, sharing your wisdom and experience, and caring less about others’ opinions of you or your life, AND still want to exfoliate, moisturize, hydrate, get a facial, chemical peel, body wrap and Botox, exercise, and eat clean.
The bottom line is: Women are free to care for their bodies and wear their hair as they see fit for their lifestyle. Whether you choose to style your natural hair or braid it under a weave, perm it or add color or highlights, the choice is yours to make.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The key to beauty is the fact that it is in the eye of the beholder. Each of us should find comfort with the woman in the mirror and, except for extreme, self-mutilating actions, do what’s best for ourselves without any shame or guilt. What’s most important is how you feel about yourself. It is far better to be comfortable in your skin, than self-conscious and insecure. When you’re conformable in your skin, you exude confidence which is both powerful and beautiful. If you’re not comfortable in your skin, your insecurity shows and it dims your shine and dulls your impact.
Whatever It Takes. So, I support just about whatever it takes for you to love yourself, be comfortable and confident with your assets and deemphasize your perceived flaws. I encourage women to be creative, curious and flexible because your style and tastes will change over time. However, at no time should you feel compelled or bullied into the latest beauty or lifestyle trend. Decide: What’s right for me? What makes me feel good? …and then just do it, without looking back.
Thriving Cougar Lifestyle. I fully endorse eating cleaner, less processed food and using natural products to nourish and care for our bodies, our temples. I know that healthy doesn’t equate to being skinny. I recognize the beauty of women who are comfortable with their curves or grey hair or wear their natural hair texture without chemicals or extensions.
As for me, I continue to learn about and use a variety of beauty regimens that enhance my mind, body and spirit. Working out is a recurring part of my lifestyle. I prefer to be strong and fit, not only because I believe that I look and feel better and want to be able to wear my clothes, but I also want to be comfortable participating in an active lifestyle. I look forward to much more active living like walking, hiking, biking and swimming, and taking the stairs or running for the train or plane without wheezing. I want to easily carry babies, pets and heavy packages; and yes, get from one end of the mall to the other end and back, in record time and without moving my car.
NOT Us vs. Them. Ladies, let’s not create an Us vs. Them mentality when it comes to how we create and present our beauty as mature women. Each of us should create a realistic vision of ourselves – who we are today and who we want to be… Once your vision is clear, I endorse pursuing the changes desired to confidently live your vision of yourself. As we age, we’re free to continue to evolve as we see fit and it ain’t nobody’s business if we do!
Do you agree that women can embrace their age and still enhance their appearance as they see fit?